Today, I witnessed a man physically abuse his girlfriend. I tried to intervene and was shocked to find out that beating her was a norm in their relationship.
I came home disturbed. And as always, I decided to think deeply about it — and here’s where my thoughts led me.
There’s a deep parental flaw especially in West Africa that conditions the female child to settle for less.
From a young age, girls are raised to be submissive, not strong.
They’re constantly warned:
“If you behave like this, no man will marry you.”
They’re taught to seek wealthy men, rather than be reminded that they too can be wealthy.
Because of this mindset, many women grow up believing that enduring suffering is strength, especially if the man provides for them.
It’s created a dangerous form of mental dependence — where abuse is normalized and tolerated.
To the men who abuse their partners just to “pass a message”
You are mentally and emotionally weak…. Beating up your woman is not a symbol of strength you retard.
And to the women who stay in such situations out of fear of surviving without him —
I say this with love, but honestly:
You’re dull for thinking your survival should be tied to someone who abuses you in a world full of opportunities. You’re stronger than you think. If someone is constantly hurting you, it’s not strength to stay — it’s denial.
You’re dealing with a broken man. Run while you still can — or it might be too late.
I write this in pain.
But sometimes pain births clarity.
— SAMY’s Dairies